Isn’t it amazing how long you can know a person and not really know their favorite things? I’ve always made it a point to know my friends’ favorite things and I hope my friends know mine. However, between my mate and I, it seems we’re just getting to know each other. Hey, better late than never.
More than knowing ones favorite things, being a best friend and lover you should know your mate’s dislikes and avoid them when possible. If you know she loves silver, don’t buy her a gold watch. If you don’t know what your wife likes or doesn’t like, ask her. Make a long list of everything you really should know about her and present it to her. Tell her it would be an honor for you to have all that information because you want to know her deeply and better than anyone else. Make your wife her own personal slam book.
Remember slam books? A notebook filled with pages and pages and pages of questions, usually requiring only one word answers. Make a notebook and label it, “All About My Wonderful Wife/Husband.” You could even make the book together. Make a page asking about favorite foods, favorite dishes, favorite fruits, favorite ice cream, brand of chocolate, coffee drink, soda… everything you can think of. Ask for her sizes. Yeah, you can’t buy her clothing if you don’t know her size. And if you’re going to be intimate, you should be able to know those things, too. And all through this “slam” book, find out everything you can about her/him. Ask her what she’d rather have–a candle-lit dinner, or a picnic. Ask about her fantasy vacation. Ask her everything… and remember the dislikes. You’ll want to avoid them.
When s/he gives you the book back or you complete the book together, read the answers and really remember them. Make them be a part of her/him in your thoughts. This is a really good thing to do. I’m going to do it for Valentine’s Day, when, actually we do not have a date scheduled.
Do you think you’ll do it? (You can do the same thing for your kids.)
